Pregnancy...from a man's point of view.
Dec 03 '00
No, there is no humor in this opinion. I look around me, and think to myself....it must be something in the water! There are more and more pregnant women lately. It makes me think back to the time when I and my son's mother, Deanna, were expecting OUR little addition.
I still remember reading the books...and attending the classes...and being nervous as hell. Sure, I was able to cope a little better than most. My friend, Jim, from High School, was told about his little "bundle of joy", at which point he became withdrawn and told the mother that the child was HER problem. Hmmm....I suppose that's why he's no longer a friend of mine....
As a guy, IF we stay around (some men just don't), are looked upon for support and encouragement. Sadly, though, some women don't get this kind of bonding. We are the first ones that have to reassure her that she is STILL beautiful, even if she feels like she's smuggling a Volkswagen under her shirt. We, and I know about this personally, are called upon to help out with the little chores that become harder and harder...like shaving of legs, etc. Oh, yes...I got quite good at giving great shaves without cutting or maiming...nothing to it. (Gee...some women shave with razors that cut them up like a Steven King movie....)
All of these little things that I did to help her...in the long run, made for an easier time while she was pregnant. I only wish I could deal with the guys who give their women a hard time....in my own way. Pregnancy is probably the hardest thing that the human body has to undergo. Men, simply, don't have the capacity for the onslaught of pain. In 1993 I was hit by a car, and I would have to say that it doesn't come close. No guy I know could handle that. Aesthetics aside, men don't have the tenacity or the fortitude. And I am a man....I can admit that I couldn't do it. Ladies...never let ANY man fool you into thinking that he could do it too. It's a lie.
I guess if I were to offer simple advice, it would be to be patient and kind. Mood swings are inevitable and emotions run high. A deep breath and some fore thought to little arguments or verbal battles will avoid a near "breakdown". Rest assured though...they are short lived. Also, even if your lady is large enough to view a movie on, remind her that she's petite. PERIOD. If you elaborate, you'll get in trouble! Trust me.
Also, take responsibility...I couldn't turn by back to her. If it's your child, guys, do the right thing. Remember: It took two to get you there.
Further, you'll have to deal with cravings. Crackers, ice cream, jalapenos (excellent craving!)...they all happen frequently. And while on the subject of flavors, related to this are scents and smells. Yes, even if you buy $65 cologne, it may make her nauseous. Simple fact. And my little girl Tasha (my Rottweiler) had an upset tummy one night. This did not help Deanna ANY. Both were vomitting for a while. What a mess THAT was. But, be patient...I just laughed and played Mr. Clean.
Guys...the little things you do while she is pregnant will mean the world to her in the long run. And, being useful helped to take the guilt away while she was ill and getting larger, etc.
But, I wouldn't have missed it for the world.
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