So, You Want to CHEAT on Your Wife/Husband
Oct 08 '00 (Updated Oct 27 '09)
The Bottom Line ******************
For whatever reason, sometimes in a marriage a partner may decide to cheat or be unfaithful. People like this feel like they are missing out on something and think that they will find it by being with someone else. They will justify their cheating ways by telling themselves that their marriage is having problems.
If you are thinking of cheating there are a few questions you need to ask yourself. Do you really even love your wife or husband? If you do not then at least have the dignity of leaving this person first. There is no excuse for hurting someone like that. If you still love this person and want to resume a relationship with them then there are a few things you need to consider.
Do you have kids? Remember, when you get a divorce after committing such act you are not just divorcing your spouse. You are ultimately divorcing your children as well. Do you really want some other man or woman raising your children playing the role of mommy or daddy? Think about it. Please if you are going to step out then do it the right way, Leave and be honest about it. Don't dump on your spouse and then split up leaving this person with all of the responsibility of the children and all of the pain that you have caused. You can't leave someone like this and expect them not to bad mouth you to your children.
As much as you both don't want the children to be hurt-They will be. They will find out about it. The children will think that you have cheated and have lied to them also. They will also put blame on the innocent spouse for leaving. With all the pressure you have put on him or her they now have to be blamed for your selfishness.
If you should be so lucky and your spouse decides to stay after you have cheated, know that life won't be a bowl of peaches for a long time. You may never get back to the love you both once had for each other.
Trust is a hard thing to regain once it has been lost. Your family and friends will have a hard time looking at you for a while. You will not only have to prove yourself to your spouse but everyone around you. You will feel like you are always on trial.
There will also be the guilt that you will be caring around. It will become very heavy after a while. There will be nights of endless tears that come from your spouse. You will be ready to move on but he/she can't. They feel dead inside. It is hard to comfort someone when you are the cause of their pain. This will be the hardest thing that both of you will ever have to go through.
Think about it before you decide to make these kinds of major changes in your life. The little bit of gratification you will receive now will leave you and your family with years of pain. Is it worth it? You will never get what you think you want from cheating.
You need to ask yourself why do I feel the need to cheat? Then you need to get help and deal with those issues first. A marriage can be saved. Like anything else you have to work on it everyday if you want your marriage to grow and be healthy.
Go seek help before it is too late. Cheating is bad news. If you believe in God then ask him to come in and help you with your marriage.
By cheating you will ultimately be cheating yourself out of a chance at a happy marriage. Thank you-Lilvoyce
Here is part two, I have recently written part two: http://www.epinions.com/content_3672088708
Household Product Reviews:
----A Product that Won't Kill My Vacuum---- ----Meco Samsonite 2-Step Stool Still going Strong---- ----Bissell PowerForce Upright Vac. works great for about a month---- ----Wow, I love this product- Clorox Splashless---- ----Fantastik wasn't so Fantastic to me---- ----Snuggle: How about some SPRING Blush?---- --Hot Shot Fogger: I was Impressed---- ----Dawn---- The Next Best Thing to My Maytag---- ----Scrubbing Bubbles Gel Toilet Cleaner---- ----More Screws Than One Man Can Handle---- ----A New Wave For a Diabetic Crave---- ----I Rubbed My Knobs Down With Brasso---- ----Anolon Nonstick Rectangular Cake Pan: My Favorite Baking Item---- ----All-Clad Stainless Turkey Lifters Set Of 2----
Baby Product Reviews
Dr. Brown's Natural Flow Bottles
Johnson's Original Baby Lotion
No More Rash? Or Waste Your Cash?
Pampers One Up Gets the
Thumbs Up
Safety First Umbrella Stroller
Candy Reviews:
Review on Junior Mints: Mint And Chocolate Bliss!
Hersheys: Come on You can Do BETTER than THIS!!
Chuckles: Reminds me of My Childhood
Charleston Chew: Try them Frozen
Caramello, for my Caramel fix
Baby Ruth, Right Idea Just Lacking
My Thoughts on the 5th Avenue Bar
Reese's White Chocolate Peanut Butter Cup: Now We're Talking!
Ice Breakers Sugarless Sour Candies: Can't believe their sugar-free!!
M&M's Peanut Butter: Harder to Find
Snickers: A Wonderful Treat *WHEN* they are Fresh
Butterfinger Crisp: Something is missing..
Skittles Original: Save the Red Ones for Me..lol
Tea Reviews:
Twinings VanillaGinseng & Blackcurrant 20 Bag
Bigelow Plantation Mint
Celestial Seasonings Raspberry Zinger
Bigelow English Tea Time
Bigelow Earl Grey Decaf Tea
Bigelow: Orange&Spice
Bigelow's Mint Medley
Bigelow Sweet Dreams Tea
I Love Lemon Herbal Tea
Celestial Seasonings Black Cherry Berry
Celestial Seasonings Herbal Tea Tangerine Orange Zinger
Celestial Seasonings Tension Tamer
Celestial Seasonings Honey Van/Cham 20 Bags
Celestial Seasonings Peppermint 20 Bags
Celestial Seasonings True Blueberry
Tazo Tea Awake Black
Bag of Fat Bubble Tea Straws
Instant Thai Tea
Celestial Seasonings Sleepytime
Gohyah Tea (Bitter Melon Tea)
Good Earth Chai Tea, Decaffeinated, Tea Bags
KitchenAid Strainer
 |
|
|
|
|
|
|
Epinions.com ID:
LILvoyce
|
 - Top 200 |
|
Member: Barbara
Location: FLORIDA
Reviews written: 664
Trusted by: 505 members
About Me:
Its time to find the Healthy Me...... This is my year to do that:-D
|
|
|
© 1999-2009 Shopping.com, Inc.